Having kids does a few things to a parent as the kids teach them things. What I have learned from my kids is that focus and follow through are imperative. But telling a kid this is like telling a rock to move.
As a parent I need to distill my message down to something meaningful to them. I have three kids, 10 and under so this is team creation at a basic level.
First I have to help them understand we are a team that stands something and it is important. I have tried many messages and now I am on to a new one that seems worth sharing: R-C-L
Responsible: While childlike spontaneity and self-righteousness is great for learning finding moral boundaries but doesn’t move the world forward as a thinking adult does, being a child is a learning period and as we age we need to have learned the important skill of being responsible for our actions.
Complete: A big part of responsibility is follow through. Each beginning needs to be completed in order to get the most from it. As an example this starts at something as simple clearing and cleaning the dishes as part of Meals, and putting your books and materials away after studying and putting your tools aways after using them and putting your clothes away so they are in good shape and you can find them when you need them. Simple stuff that ads up an sets you up for success. I call it “Completing the Circle”, finish what you start.
Lucky: Live with a responsible completion plan and feel lucky. Put a smile on your face and expect great things to happen. If you are prepared by being responsible in your actions and your circles are being completed, you are readily available for the good that comes along by having the bandwidth to recognize it and act on it and likewise you will be able to address that which is not good in a responsible, calm clear way to get it off your path quickly and effectively.
Let me know what you think of these ideas, it will help me focus and refine my thought as well. Thank you for reading.