Everything comes down to how you feel. The way you feel drives your actions. Like a stone dropped in a pond, your feelings create physical ripples put forth through your actions that expand outward to their natural boundaries and then reflect back to you to comprehend.
The problem then is in recognizing these reactions/ripples as they come back as your own making and not some new, unrelated action on someone else’s part for which you blame them instead of seeing them for what they are: A reflection of our past showing us exactly what we expect. Blaming others is a defensive/projection action that blinds us from taking responsibility for our own actions as we sit around and wonder why our reality is such as it is.
Start today, to accept your reality, comprehend it and know you can change it. Look inside, calm yourself. Find calm, productive happy feelings and be true to them and your world will change. Stop trying to change everything else, be the change you want. This is the way of the true I Am. I Am that that I feel.