Everything you are experiencing right now is the result of all your past interactions to right now. You got yourself here. No one else is responsible, even if they contributed to your making and decisions, the choice has always been yours. Your birth choice, of course, from our perspective anyway, is not possible to confirm in terms of your choice but every way you have interacted with the physical world from that point, unconsciously and consciously has brought you here.
Why is this important?
We love to play the victim and love to blame others for our less than perfect state. If it is not our fault, we feel better about ourselves, or so our ego says. So what it the best course of action to change your state of Being? Simply take responsibility for your own state. If you find your self blaming, stop and blame yourself, even if you are sure it is not your fault. Blame yourself and ask yourself what are you going to do about it to absorb, correct and move forward in a healthy, positive manner, making the world a more peaceful place.
A mistake is not a mistake until it is corrected. Until then, it is intention.
Think clearly about your intentions, if the are including holding others at fault, something is wrong. Hold yourself responsible to make corrections that make your life better. This does not mean to walk away from problems or people, but simply to start behaving in a responsible, constructive way for you and those around you. Breaking things down through blame and playing the victim brings everyone down.
Remember to get quiet and listen, and when you do I am sure you will hear the same thing I do, “All is Love”. That is all the universe says in each moment. Act from live at you are one with the universe in creation in this present moment.
Love and light to you all.